what you focus on grows

welcome back to sunday goods!

lately I’ve been thinking about how much power our attention actually has.

not in a “manifest everything you want” way, but in a very real, everyday way.

what you focus on grows.

your brain doesn’t really know the difference between something that’s true and something that’s repeated.

if you keep coming back to the same thoughts: replaying them, questioning them, worrying about them; your brain starts to treat them like facts.

like something important it needs to hold onto.

& over time, those thoughts become easier to access.

faster & louder.

it’s kind of unfair, honestly.

your mind is always learning.

always building pathways.

& it builds the strongest ones around whatever you spend the most time thinking about.

if you’re constantly focused on what’s wrong, what hurt you, what didn’t work out, or what could go wrong next, of course it feels heavy.

of course you feel stuck there.

your brain has been practicing those thoughts.

but the same thing happens when you focus on good things too.

even small ones.

especially small ones.

this doesn’t mean you ignore the hard stuff.

you’re allowed to feel sad.

you’re allowed to be angry, disappointed, scared.

none of that needs to be rushed or fixed.

but there’s a difference between feeling something & letting it become the only place your mind knows how to go.

sometimes we stay focused on pain not because it’s helpful, but because it’s familiar.

a question I’ve been asking myself is:
is this thought helping me, or am I just used to it?

you don’t need to flip a switch & suddenly think positively all the time.

that’s not real life. (I'm learning along the way)

but you can start noticing where your attention goes & gently bring it back when it’s hurting you more than helping you.

maybe that looks like:

• catching a spiral & pausing it

• reminding yourself what’s actually true right now

• sitting with a good moment a little longer instead of brushing past it

those small shifts matter more than we think.

your thoughts shape how your body feels.
your body shapes how you move through the world.
& over time, that shapes your life.

so be mindful of what you’re feeding your mind.

focus on what’s healing.
what’s growing.
what’s still good.
who you’re becoming.

not perfectly, not all the time, just enough!!!!

because, what you focus on grows.
& you deserve to grow something that feels safe to live inside.

love you always,

elle