to become who you are, you need to know who you are first

welcome back to Sunday Goods!

we’re often told to become something.
a better version. a healed version. a future version.

but becoming without knowing is how we end up chasing identities that were never ours to begin with.

“to become who you are, you need to know who you are first.”
simple, but uncomfortable.

because knowing yourself requires stillness. & honesty. & the willingness to look at parts you may have outgrown, or never chose.

so many of us move through life on autopilot.

we adopt beliefs from our families, habits from survival, personalities shaped by what kept us safe at the time.

none of that is wrong. it was necessary.

but at some point, growth asks a different question:

"is this still me?"

self-knowledge isn’t about labeling yourself or boxing yourself in.

it’s about noticing:
what drains you?
what energizes you?
what you tolerate that quietly hurts?
what you do when no one is watching?

before we can change our patterns, we have to see them.

before we can build new pathways, we have to understand the ones already wired into us.

this is how real transformation happens, not through force, but through awareness.

you don’t need to reinvent yourself overnight.
you don’t need a five-year plan.
you don’t even need clarity yet.

you just need curiosity.

start small.

ask better questions, like:

what feels aligned right now?

what feels performative?

what am I doing out of habit instead of intention?

who am I when I’m not trying to be impressive?

knowing yourself is an ongoing practice!!!!!

you’ll meet new versions of yourself in different seasons.

some you’ll love. some you’ll need to release. that’s not failure, that’s growth.

becoming isn’t about adding more.
it’s about peeling back what was never yours.

& the more you know yourself, the less you’ll chase what isn’t meant for you.

that’s the work.
that’s the gift.
that’s where becoming begins.

with care,

elle